[jenafwa]

Okay.. here's something quite messy..

Well i admit i was the bad one first. I didn't really ment to, but i started knowing this guy friend like arouned 3 months ago.. and now we hang out with each other in lotsa occasions, mostly with like friends, and sometimes alone...

Then things on the other side was getting badd. I was in a relationship with another guy and I felt that I dont' love him anymore, due to many reasons. Well not only he was jealous of this guy friend i previously mentioned, but because I'm not really what he expects. I feel quite restraint to meet his expectations, and he felt stressed cuz I'm not what he wanted me to be. He said I've changed alot already, and that I'm not the old jen anymore.

I dont' like to be my old self. To wait for him, put him in priority from all my friends, see him 24/7 which I found gets a bit tiring, have no personal space and life...

So in the end, I broke up with him like a week ago.. And i started to feel that I like the guy friend I've mentioned on the first paragraph, cuz he is the total opposite of my 'ex'...

And after we broke up, he kept coming to my place, saying that we're still friends if i say I don't want him to, and hugs me, kisses me nonstop, even when i say no...

He's refusing to let go.. and he said he won't let go so easily..

I've said it in his face soo many times that I don't love him anymore, and I don't wanan be in a relationship anymore.. it only makes him even more unhappy and made him held me even more tightly..

What should i do? How should I fling him off me without doing anymore damage now?

[Nate]

If he cant take the hint, it's him mkaing himself depressed or sad or whatever, you want and have your own self respect and now he just needs to respect you, however, i know if my gf dumped me, I would change to whatever she wants me to be, I just love her that much, but if you dont feel that way about him, then just ignore him

[Wild Seven]

get your new freind to beat him up.

[Nate]

Lol, that always worx, but bad consiquences ;p

[Sarah!]

Its only been a week, its going to take time for him to let go. Its deffinitly going take longer than a week. However, he deffinitly shouldn't be kissing like that when its over, hugs are fine but kissing for me is a definite not once I break up with someone or once they broken up with me. You to sit him down and tell him what a "friend" means. It means hanging, watching movie, having a laugh and being there for each other.

[3156502z]

The best way for him to get over you is for you to show that you are not available, and to have distance between the two of you. i.e. don't have any interaction with each other. I know it sounds harsh, but as he sees that he doesn't have a chance he will soon come around and see.Its going to be real hard for him to realize, but he will.

[jenafwa]

heya sarah...
well ive tried doing that, telling him what a friend should and shouldn't do.. He said he's not willing to let go so easily.. soo yeh...
well i can't really help it when he's all kissing me and stuff. I've tried to push him away, etc, but it doesn't really work..
but it's not like im gonna sue him or anything.. hhahaha

As for tater tot08.... well that's sorta what I'm trying to do as well.. HAHA.. trying to distance him, not willing to pick up his phone calls when he calls my mob, etc.. but it doesn't seem to work, as he always text ' missing u', etc AND i can't avoid the house phone cuz I don't have the call display..

[Sarah!]

Originally Posted by jenafwa

heya sarah...
well ive tried doing that, telling him what a friend should and shouldn't do.. He said he's not willing to let go so easily.. soo yeh...
well i can't really help it when he's all kissing me and stuff. I've tried to push him away, etc, but it doesn't really work..
but it's not like im gonna sue him or anything.. hhahaha

Then if hes not willing to hold off then you should tell him you guys can't hang out. He should respect you. Kissing you when your trying to push him away and not wanting to kiss is deffinitly not respect. If hes not willing to respect you then he shouldn't be around u. I mean I know you want to be his friend but he crossed the line. You were willing to hang out and still talk and be there for each other but if he can't do that then you shouldn't hang out. He should be able to control his urge.