[Psychadelica]

I'm gonna sum it the best I can:

Now, when I was younger I was attracted to girls and hated guys because growing up all the older men in my life were scum and I just loved girls instead and my first real crush was on a girl...I didn't wanna admit it because I was confused about what I was, but now saying I'm bi is comfortable.

So weeks after first meeting him, word reached I was strongly attracted to girls and boys after walking in on a conversation I was having with a close friend. He thought I was a freak when he first met me and told everyone he knew---people I DON'T even know.

We're closer now and he's seen I'm not some weird freak, but he's shy to just tell me how he feels too soon, so he's pretending to be friends only (though he really hints his feelings strongly through actions).

It just started maybe two months ago that he was just uncomfortable with me talking about girls or even having girls who were cute pass by me or hug me (just friends) and his face looks tense and he tries to separate us and stuff.

He tries to cover it up by saying, "oh she likes you" in a playful way and stuff, but everyone can tell he's uneasy.

I don't go and flirt with girls (or guys) in front of him and he's the one who says so-so is cute first. I mean, if we're gonna share our thoughts on hot celebs, I'm just being honest and saying I like this guy and this girl. Or which girls and guys we know are hot and cute.

And it's innocent.

It just makes me feel bad because now he's getting kinda agressive when it comes to the subject like it really ticks him off and now he calls me a freak and worst I'm not typing down.

I'm not rubbing it in his face I like girls, and I adore him. He's my bestfriend and if we can't have a relationship, I still wanna be his friend, but he just seems to not accept my orientation.

He just gets so jealous over girls. I mean...I thought boys liked bi girls...

I've tried talking to him and stuff about it but he gets angry and changes the subject. Besides all that, he's sweet to me. I mean, we play-fight and stuff and he burps and * and stuff in front of me, but it's 'cause he says he's comfortable with me. But if he's so comfortable, he'd accept me or at least talk about it, right?

I'm just confused. Let him go? All my other guy friends and girl friends are telling him, "It's her lifestyle. So what? She's not kissing any girls; she not acting out on her feelings, and she likes YOU."

I think it's mainly because we're both raised Christian, but it hurts a lot each time he bashes on me. I get enough hate from other people who don't know me....but this guy I love so much....

[tehfincheh]

His religion is probably at the root of this, for obvious reasons. That combined with the values that he's had instilled in him.

It's a tough situation, but i think you need to establish with him that sexuality isn't even a factor.

If you two are going to enjoy a long term relationship, then obviously you're not going to be sharing intimacy with girls - so effectively, as long as you're with him, you're pretty much "straight".

I mean, i don't see what the problem is. As long as you stay true to him, your bisexuality is never going to rise to the surface.

People make a big fuss over sexuality, and turn ons. But i think it's overated personally.

I don't consider a girl, in a serious relationship with a guy, to be bisexual. Because as long as she's with that guy, she should only have feelings for him. And if she's only going to share her sexual life with him - what's the big deal?

There's a difference between actively seeking a bisexual life, and finding girls attractive. A lot of teenagers seem to confuse those borders.

[Denz]

Tell him if he likes James Dean, he was BiSexual. Famously said that there is no point it walking through life one hand tied behind your back
Its one thing when a guy has to compeate with guys for a girl, but when its for girls aswell.. well its a lil unnerving for some guys.
If he is calling you names about it you really need to have a real talk to him about it

[Sypher2006]

I agree with denz

[Rorek911]

i agree with mostly religon, some parents can drive it in their kids heads...no disrespect to any religon tho..

[Sarah!]

Originally Posted by Denz

Tell him if he likes James Dean, he was BiSexual. Famously said that there is no point it walking through life one hand tied behind your back
Its one thing when a guy has to compeate with guys for a girl, but when its for girls aswell.. well its a lil unnerving for some guys.
If he is calling you names about it you really need to have a real talk to him about it

Agrees!

[brown_skin]

figure out whats best 4 u do u want him bad enough u would give up bein bi or do u want 2 tri somin new and be wit some one else (female) think

[Psychadelica]

I had a serious talk with him. (thanks to all of you, btw!!!) He agreed to sit down but once the subject escaped my lips, he got tense as usual and rejected my offer to discuss it, but I made him listen. I told him that if he didn't wanna discuss it with me I'd just end things, period. So after telling him everything from my point of view, I asked him why he was acting the way he did and he how felt.

I'm attracted to both sexes, yeah, but I really love him, and when I told him I loved him, I made it clear I only wanted him and no one else. HIM, not other boys and girls. He probably does have to compete with other guys that are interested in me and also girls and I'm up against other girls that are into him, and if he was into guys and guys were interested in him too....I kinda get how he feels.

He thought that since I had two choices there'd be a higher chance of me cheating and he felt like I was invading or something because guys can't help but look at other girls and I guess he thought that I'd be looking at girls too and it made him embarrassed to know what his friends knew my orientation. But I would never cheat on him, but he's still scared of me doing so. Our religion also has something with it, he told me. I make him both concerned, in love, mad, and hurt. He wanted to accept me but he was just in between it all, you know? It's horrible to know I made him confused because I care so much about him. Also, his mom has gay friends, but she raised him to have morals and stuff. I respect that highly and I was raised in a similar way, too, but his mom just says smack about me and ****, and I guess that also influenced him. It's kinda hypocritical. He just loves his mom because he was adopted and she treats him well and sacraficed for him a lot stuff, so I feel I can't tell him to just defy her.

So now we're just gonna try.