[Lost_Prophet]

Hmm k.

Well me and my girlfriend haven't had sex in about 3 months due to school and other things in life. We've had 1 or 2 chances to do it but when those chances came my girlfriend didn't want to do it, we would get turned on but she would stop, now of course I respect her and I told her "if you don't want to it's ok" so we just sleep.

When I've asked her why she doesn't want to she says "I don't know" or "I don't like sex". I get scared that I might not be turning her on but when I ask her she tells me that I do make her horny it's just that she doesn't want to do it, I also get scared that I might not pleasure her but she tells that "it feels good when you hit the spot".

I came here to ask the girls (guys welcomed to post too), what reason could it be that she might not like sex or just not want to do it?

I know my girlfriend and she would tell me anything so I know she's not hiding anything, I guess I just need a girls opinion on what's going on.

[Hunter Michelle]

Maybe stress has lowered her libido.
Is she on any anti-depressants or other medication? Those can lower sex drive significantly. Even birth control sometimes lowers it.
It could be contributed to many things.

[Lost_Prophet]

She has been under stress because of her university application (keeping her marks stable). Also, she is on birth control. Thank you for replying so fast

[Jenn.]

Why anyone wouldn't want to have sex, when they're completly protected and horny, is beyond me

I can't come up with any reasons why I wouldn't, other than if I wasn't comfortable or if I wasn't in the mood. Maybe it's because shes not comfortable, or shes afraid she'll get caught, or shes just not into it.

[Lost_Prophet]

Originally Posted by Jenn436

Why anyone wouldn't want to have sex, when they're completly protected and horny, is beyond me

I can't come up with any reasons why I wouldn't, other than if I wasn't comfortable or if I wasn't in the mood. Maybe it's because shes not comfortable, or shes afraid she'll get caught, or shes just not into it.

She is completely comfortable with me and we are alone, I guess she's probably not into it.

Edit: I'm on the phone with her and she says "it doesn't feel like anything" except when I hit the spot.

[Gloom]

A lot of girls dont get pleasure by penetration alone, when you hit the g-spot thats probably when it starts feeling good for her.
I suppose..

[SlabumniLoviets]

Originally Posted by Lost_Prophet

I came here to ask the girls (guys welcomed to post too), what reason could it be that she might not like sex or just not want to do it?

I know my girlfriend and she would tell me anything so I know she's not hiding anything, I guess I just need a girls opinion on what's going on.

The reason could be inhibition to sex, shes not emotionally ready, she's a virgin or worse maybe she was sexually abused in the past and feels guilty that. Some people's body respond to sexual touch/ feelings but emotionally (or say mentally) they don't want to do it. In that case you have to wait, maybe talk tactly to find the reason. Maybe the wait could turn out to be a long one...its all upto you whether you want to wait. If you love her you would, if you don't well no point waiting.

I had such an experience where she didn't want to have sex, I just let her be, went through a relationship of five months, then she went ahead with it. But the relationship didn't work out long after that, her idea of sex was very inhibited. When I wanted to talk about it, she went on accusing me of being 'like all guys, you want only one thing', which is far from truth and its hurtful. If I really wanted only that I wouldn't have stayed with her for five months in the first place, its way too much effort just for sex. I guessed shes not my kind of girl, maybe someone who is close to her beliefs and maturity would suit her.

Originally Posted by Jenn436

Why anyone wouldn't want to have sex, when they're completly protected and horny, is beyond me

It does happen and when it does, topics, discussions like this come up. I guess its just something which holds them back, I find the whole idea of beating around the bush funny.

[Lost_Prophet]

Originally Posted by I'm Me

The reason could be inhibition to sex, shes not emotionally ready, she's a virgin or worse maybe she was sexually abused in the past and feels guilty that. Some people's body respond to sexual touch/ feelings but emotionally (or say mentally) they don't want to do it. In that case you have to wait, maybe talk tactly to find the reason. Maybe the wait could turn out to be a long one...its all upto you whether you want to wait. If you love her you would, if you don't well no point waiting.

I had such an experience where she didn't want to have sex, I just let her be, went through a relationship of five months, then she went ahead with it. But the relationship didn't work out long after that, her idea of sex was very inhibited. When I wanted to talk about it, she went on accusing me of being 'like all guys, you want only one thing', which is far from truth and its hurtful. If I really wanted only that I wouldn't have stayed with her for five months in the first place, its way too much effort just for sex. I guessed shes not my kind of girl, maybe someone who is close to her beliefs and maturity would suit her.



It does happen and when it does, topics, discussions like this come up. I guess its just something which holds them back, I find the whole idea of beating around the bush funny.

No no lol, I know my girlfriend, trust me. She has never had a bad experience, we were both each other's firsts and she is ready.

I think it's the stress because notice how it's been in the last 2-3 months, when school started (grade 12 = university applications = AHH!). Before that we used to have sex a lot. A lot of things going on now, she probably just needs time to relax from life, I think I'll give her a nice full body massage

Thank you everyone for your posts but I think I got this under control now, you folks have helped enormously, my gratitude is infinite.

[Shaunagh]

It COULD be because of the pill. HOw long has she been taking it? has she changed to a new one? or it could just be stressed. Just be patient and give her time, you sound like youre a great boyfriend to her becuase your not pressuring her

[LordGrace]

Aww... you think she's stressed... so you give her a full body massage. That's really sweet. She's a lucky girl, it seems.

[Lost_Prophet]

Originally Posted by Shaunagh

It COULD be because of the pill. HOw long has she been taking it? has she changed to a new one? or it could just be stressed. Just be patient and give her time, you sound like youre a great boyfriend to her becuase your not pressuring her

She's been on the pill since May and it's the same one. I'll give her as much time as she needs, hey, if she doesn't ever want to have sex again that's fine with me, I'm not with her because of sex.