[Stephen_]

i went to a party recently and got well and truly drunk (enough to make myself ill) but everyone was drunk so it was ok. What i found was that i got drunk, we all had fun, and everyone got into small goups to talk and prat around or some people just laid across each other and talked like that. I'm not sure if you know what i mean, but they seemed so happy and content. I had no such fun. No-one seemed to want to talk to me much at all.These friends of mine were having a whale of a time with each other and i was left in the background. With no-one. I find that i can only ususally socialise when im atleast tipsy because i'm pretty muh socially inept, i have no girlfriend, a few friends, and so far no girl has found me attractive or liked me for me (ive had like one night stands but they dont count). I find myself to be more confident and comfortable on my own. However i want to be liked, i want to have good friends, and i want to be able to have a romantic relationship without the girl thinking i'm weird. (very rare). I find i have all these feelings inside and i dont know how to communicate or channel them, if that's even possible. Apparently talking about things help but i find that i feel even worse from making a prat of myself so i dont know what to do. I have met several really nice girls that dont actively not like me if you get that, but there's no way i can talk to them, i just cant; and i really like them and theres no way that they're gonna say something to me. I'm not sure what im asking here, but if you have any positive feedback or some advice then that will be greatly appreciated.

[HH8ttup961]

Hey, I am think I am going to PM you on this subject... but until I get it typed, smile for me? I know it is strange because you do not know me but just smile... even for youself.

[skeeter3]

I use to be somewhat like that. What I finally did was, I stoped caring about what people thought about me. I started smiling more and having a positive outlook on life. Just stop trying to get everyone to like you and start getting them to like you

Secondly quit drinking. Drinking makes you depressed which from what I have read, it sounds as if you are. I took zoloft(sp) for a long time and it got me out of that deep hole of depression. I hope this helps. Feel free to pm me.

[Hotel-Paper]

No-one seemed to want to talk to me much at all.These friends of mine were having a whale of a time with each other and i was left in the background

i really really really really relate to what you're saying....i think we're even soulmates....everything ur saying i went through it....i kind off got over it now....i really wanna help you understand youre loved and its about self confidence....if you dont get yourself into the party, noone's going to...

Pm me if you want or add me, i'd love to help you. after all, i went through this..

[Skwid]

Moved to Friends and Family

Decided that this might be better off in the Friends and Family section. The whole thing revolves around friendship and getting to know people.

[amaya's daddy]

Self confidence is everything. You have to stop caring what people think about you. I know it's easier said than done, but once you do that, nothing can stop you. You'll meet someone who looks past the exterior and gets to know your true personality, trust me.

And drinking isn't worth it. Drinking doesn't make people like you.